What 2 things I learned by the time I turned 30

You learn many things as you grow up. There are 2 things I learned by the time I turn 30 and here they are...

Anyone can find love

Growing up, I didn't think that I would ever find love. The entire time growing up I was a scared boy inside of a closet afraid of coming out. The older I was getting, the more I was feeling that I was going to be single and alone for the rest of my life. It was hard for me because I never thought I was going to be accepted from society of me being a homosexual.

Back in 2012, I moved across the country where I was able to express myself because I was in a different part of the world away from my family and all alone. I was given the opportunity of a lifetime to start my life the way I wanted to.

Even though I moved across the country, it was still hard to find love. Honestly speaking here, I never looked the part. I never found myself as an attractive man.

I was literally giving up on love until one day in 2018, I was asked out on a date and it went so well. I couldn't believe how well it went. Next thing, I was asked if I wanted to be in a relationship.

And could you ever believe this, months later he asked me to marry him! The love of my life asks me to marry him. I was 28 when I found love. And I will be 31 when I say "I do."

I ask you if you think that you will never find love. "Do not give up on your faith." Love will find out, just give it some time.

You are not easily influenced anymore

Growing up I would let people push me around. I was a huge pushover. Even my close friends would call me that. Growing up I really never understood the term "being a pushover," until one day I literally had to look it up online what a pushover was. Even though I looked it up and understood what it meant, I still was a person that was easily influenced, which wasn't good at most times in my life.

Even moving across the country, I was still a pushover. And the only reason for that is because I didn't want to make any enemies, I would just let them step all over me. I didn't have any control. I was a weakling.

I didn't want to start any sort of altercation with anyone. I wanted friends and I know at that time, that wasn't a healthy habit at all just to make friends.

Getting closer to 30, I started growing a pair and told myself "enough is enough." I started to be brave, I started to stand up for myself and say "No!" I am not going to be a person who is easily influenced anymore. I am now a strong individual who can say "no" and knows when I had enough.

#love #homosexual #lgbt #pushover #enoughisenough


Ruben is the founder of Beginning of you, a platform where your needs on self-(care, love, and improvement), life and wellness is a click away for your enjoyment. He firmly believes that taking care of yourself is very important. Ruben enjoys bartending, enjoys taking his Siberian husky out for long walks and enjoy's blogging. Connect with Ruben on all social media platforms.

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